My mom has this little bakery she likes that specializes in cupcakes. My dad thinks she’s insane because they’re $6 each and he’s happy with a Little Debbie Nutty Butty.
We watch Hell’s Kitchen, MasterChef or The Next Food Network Star, but take about the coupons we used for McDonald’s dollar menu.
We talk about how cheap, but non-nutritional, junk food is while complaining about how much quality meat & fresh veggies cost. Even though they fuel us longer and overall provide a better value for the price.
We discuss the price of milk, the cost of gasoline, and the declining value of the dollar-but we drive status symbol cars, carry the latest electronic gadgetry-and women-you know what it’d say if you were just seen carrying your fur baby in a Louis Vuitton.
(Don’t misunderstand me, if you can afford the car, gadget, purse…whatever go for it. This is not in any way a condemnation or judgement for owning them – it’s more of an observation of misplaced priorities. You checkbook & finances are between you & God…and possibly your spouse. …and if you’re struggling to untangle and get untrapped,and stop being bullied by financial issues that are the results of bad choices, then I recommend Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University. Debt and finances aren’t really my point either.)
What I’m leading up to is value and worth…or worth vs value. Not too long ago my current boss sat me down for a 90 day review. This review followed a probation period and preceded me being hired permanently. Her question to me was, “What are you worth?”
I answered her honestly.
I’m worth more than you’re willing to pay me but I’ll accept X. (Please understand I wasn’t being conceited I was being honest. What I accepted was a 1/3 of what I made in 2011 doing a very similar job in a different industry.) They got me at a value price.
Which bring to to another point. Why is it the value of a car depreciated when you take it home, but fine art and real estate values go up over time. We have value meals (meaning they are cheap) but we have appraisal done to value the worth of an estate.
Most of us, especially women, don’t understand our value or our worth.
In the crazy mixed up distorted world we live in things that are prized (like our virginity) are given away and we hang on tightly to things of little worth-like a child with a favorite, but broken toy that has no batteries. We have devalued life to such an extent hundreds of babies are killed each day (abortion) and we have sold women that their right to make a choice is worth more than life.
Society & the media teaches that women are just as powerful as or stronger than men, but the sad reality is those things that devalue women: porn, prostitution, sex trafficking & sex slavery are at all time highs…and growing exponentially.
We live in a crazy mixed up world where even the meaning of worth & value have bee so distorted that we barely understand what they mean.
Yet, we are to have self-worth and be a valuable member of society.
I like what Steven Furtick of Elevation Church says:
What matters most is not what I think I am or am not. What matters is what my Father sees in me and what He says about me.
The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.
And even when you can’t get seem to get your act together, your identity is secure and completely intact. Because in Christ, who you are matters infinitely more than anything you do or cannot do.
When I went through a layoff-which I’m now totally convinced God allowed to show me that my worth and value weren’t based on my job, title, tenure, salary, gadgets, reputation, education, grades, the club’s/society’s I was a member of, brand names and labels I wore but rather my worth and value is based on who God says I am-Steven Furtick was used by God to speak into my life and show me my life had worth and value when all the “status symbols” and markers of achievement were taken away. (If you need some good things to listen to download the Elevation Church app my favorites series are: Death to Selfie, Crash the Chatterbox, I know He is but what am I and best of all…Identity Theft. That’ll get ya started.)
Don’t let an abusive relationship, a disgruntled co-worker, an unhappy boss, or a bitter person define your worth or deflated your value.
You are priceless.
Why? Because God says so.